ADHD

I’ve struggled at the thought of posting this for a long time. Is my adhd diagnosis relevant to my clients? Probably not but my experience of living with it gives me an understanding from a lived experience. I don’t have all the answers but I know what has helped me find peace in who I am, a long with a vast amount of training in the area I am now compassionate, accepting and loving of my adhd.

Living with ADHD (Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder) isn’t always easy. It’s like having a brain that runs a little faster, sideways or even upside down at times! While the rest of the world expects you to have a brain that holds a steady pace in a straight line.

Its a unique way of experiencing the world, one that’s filled with fun, creativity, energy, and insight. It can be a superpower, the one that make you you!! Sometimes understanding and excepting who you are can make the world of differences.

ADHD is different for everyone, no two people are the same. However there are often similar traits. For some, it means constant activity and impulsive behaviour but for others, it can be struggle to stay focused, remember plans, or start tasks, even ones they care most about.

Some traits include:

• Object permanence, losing track of time and objects! Im always looking for my keys or glasses!!

• Starting a million projects and finishing none, because you’ve completed the exciting bit, the rest is boring!

• Being overwhelmed by simple decisions, (how on earth do people decide!)

• Feeling like you’re “underachieving,” despite having big dreams!

• Living with shame or frustration that others don’t see or even have on their radar!

• 100’s of thoughts that seem so random but seem to be connected somewhere in an adhd brain.

  
  

It isn’t a lack of intelligence or effort. It’s a brain that’s wired a little different, and that wiring has challenges as well as strengths. Learning how to love the strengths can be the tough bit! But so can combatting the challenges.

Whether you’ve been recently diagnosed or self diagnosed, navigating life with ADHD can be improved with understanding, support and a toolkit that works for you. I have so many different projects on the go all at once but I have learnt thats the way I work best. I celebrate the projects I complete and shrug off the ones that are still waiting for completion with compassion. I wonder how much compassion you would show yourself if its the same for you?

Counselling can make a huge difference. By working with a professional that understands the struggles of adhd. One who can help you build a roadmap tailored to your strengths allowing you to accept and love who you really are 🥰 can be life changing.

ADHD can be hard. It can feel isolating, overwhelming, and frustrating. But it can also be a source of innovation, deep empathy, out-of-the-box thinking, amazing problem solving and passion.

You’re not lazy. You’re not a failure. You just need a system that meets you where you are, one that works for you and not where the world assumes you should be.

Living with ADHD means finding tools, not shame. It means replacing “Why can’t I just…?” with “What would help me actually do this?” Finding acceptance, compassion and self love can come from understanding who you are and your needs.

Aim to take it one step at a time. Celebrate the small wins. Find your rhythm. And remember ADHD doesn’t define you, it makes you. How you live with it and celebrate the strengths it brings you can shape and empower your life.